Helping Your Child Thrive In a Fat Phobic World

I get a lot of questions about parenting. One of the categories of questions I get is about how to help kids become healthy eaters and avoid disordered eating and poor body image.

How do I talk to my kids about food, dieting, and overeating?

When talking to kids about food, it's crucial to focus on how different foods make us feel rather than discussing weight. Encourage them to notice how certain foods give them energy and strength, while others might make them feel sluggish or tired. For example, you could say, "Have you noticed how eating a good breakfast helps you feel ready to take on the day?" This approach helps kids understand the connection between food and overall well-being without introducing the concept of dieting.

Instead of encouraging dieting, promote mindful eating. Teach your children to listen to their bodies and recognize hunger and fullness cues. You might say, "Let's take a moment to see if we're still hungry before getting seconds." This helps them develop a healthy relationship with food and trust their own bodies' signals.

How can I encourage my kids to exercise?

Encouraging kids to exercise can be fun and engaging without feeling like a chore. One great way is by involving them in sports or physical activities they enjoy. Participating in sports not only provides excellent exercise but also helps with body image. When kids see themselves getting stronger and more capable, they develop a sense of pride in their physical abilities. You could share with them, "Isn't it amazing how much stronger you've become since you started soccer? Look at all the things you can do now!"

It's also helpful to make physical activity a family affair. Regular family walks, bike rides, or even dance parties in the living room can make exercise enjoyable and something to look forward to. Creating a positive and fun environment around physical activity sets a good example and encourages kids to stay active.

How can I help my children learn to love and accept their bodies?

Promoting a healthy body image starts with modeling it yourself. Children often look to their parents for cues on how to feel about their own bodies. Show them that you appreciate your body for what it can do, rather than how it looks. You might say, "I love how my legs are strong enough to carry me on our hikes," or "It's great how my arms can give you such big hugs."

Having regular family meals is another key aspect. Family meals provide a time for connection and conversation, reinforcing healthy eating habits and body positivity. During these meals, avoid discussing diets or weight. Instead, focus on enjoying the food and each other's company. You could say, "I love our family dinners because we get to share delicious meals and talk about our day."

By creating an environment that emphasizes the importance of how food and exercise make us feel, and by modeling a positive body image yourself, you can help your children develop a healthy relationship with their bodies and food. Remember, it's not just about what you say, but also what you do. Your actions and attitudes play a significant role in shaping your children's perspectives on health and body image.

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