Parenting Counseling

Letting your kids fail occasionally can teach them resilience

Letting your kids fail occasionally can teach them resilience

I had a parent call me monthly about her student.She would call anytime he was close to failing and would ask how can we prevent him from failing. She also told me that she emails his teacher almost weekly, and couldn’t understand why she hadn’t heard anything back. I listened empathetically to her talk then asked, "What is the harm in failing?"

Helping Your Child Thrive In a Fat Phobic World

Helping Your Child Thrive In a Fat Phobic World

I get a lot of questions about parenting. One of the categories of questions I get is about how to help kids become healthy eaters and avoid disordered eating and poor body image. One of my most read blog posts is entitled "How to Not Screw Up Your Kid's Body Image." I also have another more recent post entitled "Children and Eating - Developing Non-Disordered Eating Habits" and one entitled "How to Not Screw Up Your Kid's Body Image - Developing Healthy Eating Habits in Children."

Children and Eating - Developing Non-Disordered Eating Habits

Children and Eating - Developing Non-Disordered Eating Habits

As an eating disorder therapist, I get a lot of questions from parents about how to feed children and how to prevent eating disorders. A great resource for answering some of these questions is the Ellyn Satyr Institute. Ellyn Satyr is a Dietitian and Family Therapist and is recognized as a leading expert when it comes to issues related to eating and food.

Getting rid of parent guilt

Getting rid of parent guilt

Sitting across from me on the sofa with her adolescent daughter, Lydia was tearful and a little overwhelmed. I had not planned to meet with them that day, but I had a cancellation and was able to fit them in. Lydia's daughter Sandy had been in treatment with me for the past few months for an eating disorder. Though she had made great strides, Sandy continued to struggle with stuffing her emotions down with food. Sandy was working out the trauma she had experienced as a victim of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of a family member. Sometimes Sandy acted out, sometimes she numbed out. For her, going numb was easier than letting the pain of her experience live alert inside her.

Ways to prevent eating disorders in your child

Ways to prevent eating disorders in your child

I am so impressed by the love and devotion of parents who bring their children into my office to help them deal with their eating disorder struggles. It is incredibly painful to watch your child suffer, but these parents try every day to understand their kids, to support them, and to walk with them through the emotional roller coaster of their disorder. There is hope for change for these children, but my hope would be that parents never have to walk down this road in the first place.