As summer winds down and the new school year approaches, I know it can be stressful for me as a parent to help my children transition back to school. There are always teachers to meet, things to buy, and orientation events to drive to. This can be a stressful time for both parents and children, so here are some tips to support your child during this transition.
Be an Active Listener
One of the most powerful ways to support your child is by being an active listener. This means giving them your full attention when they talk, asking open-ended questions, and validating their feelings.
For example: If your child says, "I'm worried about making new friends," instead of brushing it off, you might respond with, "I understand how that can be scary. Do you want to talk about what you're most worried about?"
For kids who are more reserved and don't easily open up, try gentle prompts and give them space to respond: -
Example: "I've noticed you seem a bit quiet about school starting. It's okay to feel that way. If there's anything you want to share, I'm here to listen."
Normalize Stress and Anxiety
It's important to help your child understand that stress and anxiety are normal, especially when facing new situations. Providing them with strategies to manage these feelings can make a big difference.
Example:"You know, feeling nervous or stressed about going back to school is completely normal. Even adults feel this way when starting something new. It's our body's way of preparing us to face new challenges. What's important is finding ways to manage these feelings. How about we try some deep breathing exercises together?"
Example Strategies:
Breathing Exercises: Teach them simple breathing techniques, such as taking deep breaths in for four counts and out for four counts.
Watch this video from Wilson Counseling with grounding techniques to help deal with anxiety that you can show your child when they are stressed
Physical Activity: Encourage them to engage in sports or other physical activities, which can help reduce stress.
Reading or Music: Suggest reading a favorite book or listening to calming music as ways to unwind.
Promote Good Sleep
Help them develop a healthy sleep routine that prepares them for a good night's rest:
Establish a consistent routine: If your child has been staying up late during the summer, gradually shift their bedtime earlier to match the school schedule.
Screen-Free Time: Ensure they get off screens at least an hour before bed. The blue light from devices can interfere with their ability to fall asleep.
Hygiene Routine: Establish a calming pre-sleep routine that includes brushing teeth and washing up. -
Relaxing Activities: Encourage activities like reading a book or doing a quiet hobby to help their mind wind down.
Involve Them in the Process
Getting your child involved in the back-to-school preparations can empower them and make them feel more in control of the situation:
Shopping Together: Make a fun day out of shopping for school supplies and clothes. Let your child pick out items they like, which can build excitement and a sense of ownership over the new school year.
Organizing Their Space: Create a designated study area at home with your child's input. Having a special spot for homework can help them focus and feel prepared.
Example: "Where would you like to set up your homework station? Maybe we can decorate it together."
Create Positive Associations
Building positive associations with school can help ease your child's anxiety. Share your own positive school experiences and emphasize the enjoyable aspects of school life:
Sharing Stories: Talk about your favorite school memories or fun things you did with friends.
Example: "I remember being nervous about starting a new school year too, but I ended up meeting some of my best friends and having great adventures."
Highlighting Fun Activities: Remind them of the extracurricular activities and events they enjoy, like sports, art classes, or school plays.
Example: "Remember how much fun you had in art class last year? I bet this year will be even better!"
Foster Independence
Encouraging your child to take on responsibilities and make decisions can boost their confidence. Foster their independence with these strategies:
Decision Making: Allow them to make choices about their school day, such as selecting their outfit or packing their lunch.
Example: "Would you like to choose your outfit for the first day of school? It’s fun to show off your style!"
Problem Solving: Teach them problem-solving skills to handle school challenges independently.
Example: "If you have trouble with a classmate, what do you think you could do to resolve it? Let's come up with some ideas together."
Stay Connected
Maintaining open communication with your child's teachers and school staff can provide additional support:
Meet the Teacher: Attend back-to-school nights or schedule a meeting with your child’s teacher to discuss any specific needs or concerns.
Stay Informed: Keep up with school newsletters, emails, and events to stay engaged with your child's education.
Encourage Social Connections
Help your child build and maintain friendships by arranging playdates or extracurricular activities to help your child reconnect with friends or meet new ones.
By actively listening to your child, normalizing their feelings of stress and anxiety, establishing routines, and promoting good sleep habits, you'll be setting them up for a successful and smooth transition back to school. Remember, your support and understanding are invaluable during this time. Here's to a great school year ahead!
Contact our Houston Therapists if you have any questions or need further support as the school year begins. We're here to help you and your child have a successful and stress-free start to the new school year!
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